5 things healing generational trauma has taught me.

1. It’s never ok to use sacrifice to guilt trip my daughters. (I’ve given you everything and raised you my whole life and you can’t even do blah blah blah) I had them, they didn’t ask me to be here.

2. Calling a child dramatic when they are genuinely upset can create feelings of guilt, shame, and worthlessness in the child. This can lead to long-term trauma, as the child may struggle to trust others and may also fear expressing their feelings. This trauma can have a lasting impact on the child's mental health and future relationships.

3. Telling my daughters that there’s no reason for them to be crying isn’t the wisest decision. (Let them get the cry out and offer a solution, word of encouragement, affirmations etc…)

4. Giving children the silent treatment is damaging.

5. It is damaging to compare my daughters to their other siblings, family members, or friends.